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Family Day: The More Parents the Merrier, in BC

2/12/2014

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In the news today is the story of the first three-parent family in B.C..
The three parents - two lesbians and the man who donated sperm for the conception of their child - agreed that all three of them would be parents.  So the child's birth certificate records three legal parents.
How does that work?


Under the new (March 2013) Family Law Act, the parent(s) who intend to raise the child can include the donor, or the surrogate mother, or perhaps other people, on their child's birth certificate, provided that the donor or the surrogate has made an agreement with the parents who intend to raise the child.  The three parents do not have to live together.  


A child has rights of child maintenance, and of inheritance, from all their parents.


Note that a donor of sperm is NOT automatically a parent.  The law is explicit about that.


So this is a question of choice.


There is a catch, though.  To be eligible to register more than two parents, the additional parent(s) must have a written agreement with the child's parents MADE BEFORE THE CHILD IS CONCEIVED.


What if you have a pregnancy in progress, and decide after the pregnancy has begun that you want the donor, or the surrogate mother, to be a legal parent?


In that case, the law provides that you can make an application to court to have the third parent added to the birth certificate.  Since there have not been any applications of this kind in BC yet, it is hard to predict what factors a court will take into account, but a court must make the best interests of the child its only consideration.


You can read more about the provisions of the Family Law Act in our booklet "Choosing Children".

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Trans kids explain eloquently

12/9/2013

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Tracey Wilson and Harriette Cunningham are two wonderful trans girls.  Both are 10.  They explain their situation in a great news story.  Check it out... 
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Baby Steps: New Law Clarifies Status of Sperm Donors, Egg Donors, Surrogate Mothers; Says Child Can Have More than Two Parents

11/9/2013

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Finally, the law offers certainty to queers who want to become parents.
For prospective queer parents, a donation of sperm or eggs is a necessity.  Gay dads, couples with a trans parent, or infertile lesbians also need a surrogate (a woman who will carry the child).


Sperm donors can be either known (the "turkey baster method") or unknown, with sperm from a clinic.  Eggs have to be extracted by a clinic.  A surrogacy arrangement can either be made through a clinic, or through a friend who will bear a child and then give the child to the child's parent(s) to raise.

Till now, it was unclear whether a donor (of sperm, for example) did or could have any parental rights or responsibilities under the law.

If a child was born with the use of a surrogate, it was necessary to get a court order declaring the intended parents to be the legal parents of the child.

And although two co-mothers could register at birth and be on a child's birth certificate, an adoption or a declaration of parentage was required before the comother was a full legal parent of her child.

And the maximum number of parents a child could have was two.

All that has changed.

The new Family Law Act
    -    spells out that donors are NOT "parents", unless they are using the donated material to create a child that they will themselves raise, or unless the donor has a parenting agreement with the child's other parent(s)
    -    says that intended parents can be registered after the birth of a child by a surrogate mother, without a court order
    -    says that a child can have more than two legal parents, provided that all the people intending to parent sign an agreement to do so before the child is conceived.  A child's birth certificate would then list all those parents.

For a detailed discussion of the provisions, check out the paper that Zara Suleman and I wrote for the Continuing Legal Education Society:  Baby Steps:  Assisted Reproduction and the Family Law Act

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Baby making

9/13/2013

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This is an interesting summary of some of the technological assists for queers wanting to have babies:
http://www.prweb.com/releases/2013LGBTFamilies/09/prweb11113712.htm

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Trans Parent-cy

8/2/2013

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To read a recent Ontario decision about the right of a trans parent to see her children, go to H.P. v P.L.C.
In that case, a transwoman was denied permission to see her children at all.
It was eight years since she had last seen her bio-children, conceived before her transition.  During that eight years, she had been convicted of sexual assault on her wife and spent time in jail, where her gender dysphoria was diagnosed and she began her transition.  Her ex-wife had divorced her and remarried.
Despite having an extremely low risk to reoffend, and despite having several glowing letters of support including one from her former father in law, the judge refused to let her see the children.
On the one hand, the judgement rests on standard considerations: the time since she had seen her children, the fact that she had let that time go by without trying to see them; the fact that the children didn't remember her.  On the other hand, the judge's attitude to trans people suffuses the judgement.
Read the case and decide what decision you would have reached if you were the judge.

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It Can't Happen Here...Thank Goodness!

7/31/2013

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A lesbian couple in France has been forced by the court to recognize the "rights" of the man who donated sperm to conceive the child - even though he had signed a donor insemination agreement waiving all parental rights.
As a result the donor dad now has visiting rights with "his" child.
France has been slow to recognize the rights of lesbian and gay couples. For example it is not legal for two gay men or two lesbians to adopt a child.
In B.C., the question of whether a 'donor dad' has any rights has been answered by the legislature.  As of March 18 2003, a donor is NEVER a parent on the basis of his donation of sperm (or her donation of eggs, as the case may be).
  So a donor cannot claim time with a child; and is not liable to pay child support.



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A great understanding of a trans youth

4/8/2013

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For a moving understanding of the issues that trans youth face, check out this news report:
http://globalnews.ca/video/459161/ambc-michelle-and-garfield

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Perils of surrogacy

3/5/2013

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Thanks to Agnes Huang for passing on this story of a surrogate mom who learned she was carrying a child with congenital defects, and of the surrogate parents who no longer wanted the child.
In BC, under the Family Law Act, a child is the child of the woman who gave birth to her, even if there is a pre-conception surrogacy agreement, until the birthing mom signs an agreement to hand over the child after birth.
http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/04/health/surrogacy-kelley-legal-battle/index.html?hpt=hp_c1


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Trans Legal Defense and Education Fund sues Colorado School

3/1/2013

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In British Columbia, some public schools do and some do not accommodate trans youth.  Roman Catholic school system does not, though this is currently being challenged in a human rights proceeding.

This report from the Transgender Legal Defence and Education Fund:
Complaint Alleges Six-Year-Old Transgender Girl Denied Access to Girls' Bathrooms at School

TLDEF today announced that it has filed a complaint with the Colorado Civil Rights Division on behalf of a 6-year-old girl who has been barred from using the girls' bathrooms at her elementary school. For the past year, Coy Mathis, a first-grader at Eagleside Elementary School in Fountain, CO, has used the girls' bathrooms. In mid-December 2012, the Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8 informed her parents that Coy would be prevented from using the girls' bathrooms after winter break. The District ordered Coy to use the boys' bathroom, a staff bathroom, or the nurse's bathroom.

Coy was labeled male at birth, but has always known that she is a girl, and has expressed this since she was 18 months old. Since kindergarten, Coy has worn girls' clothing to school. Her classmates and teachers have used female pronouns to refer to her and she has used the girls' bathrooms, just like any other girl in her school.

The Colorado Anti-Discrimination Act prohibits discrimination against transgender students in public schools. Despite efforts to get the District to reconsider its decision, it has refused to do so. Coy's parents have removed her from school and are home schooling her until this Complaint is resolved.

"We want Coy to have the same educational opportunities as every other Colorado student," said Kathryn Mathis, Coy's mother. "Her school should not be singling her out for mistreatment just because she is transgender."

"By forcing Coy to use a different bathroom than all the other girls, Coy's school is targeting her for stigma, bullying and harassment," said Michael Silverman, TLDEF's executive director, and one of Coy's lawyers. "Through the Colorado Anti-Discrimination Act, Coloradans have made it clear that they want all Colorado children to have a fair and equal chance in school," he added. "Coy's school has the opportunity to turn this around and teach Coy's classmates a valuable lesson about friendship, respect and basic fairness."

"We have five children and we love them all very much," said Mrs. Mathis. "We want Coy to return to school to be with her teachers, her friends, and her siblings, but we are afraid to send her back until we know that the school is going to treat her fairly. She is still just six years old, and we do not want one of our daughter's earliest experiences to be our community telling her she's not good enough."

In addition to TLDEF, the legal team representing the Mathis family includes Michael Flynn, Lucy Deakins, Jami Mills Vibbert, and Rosario Doriott Dominguez of Fulbright & Jaworski L.L.P.

For the latest information on Coy's case, including upcoming media appearances, please follow us on Twitter and "like" us on Facebook. We'll be posting the latest information there first.

Click for a slideshow of Mathis family photos.

Please donate today to help us fight for Coy's rights and the rights of children like her. Your support is critical to achieving a victory for Coy and transgender people everywhere.


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Choosing Children/Making Parents: The Family Law Act and Assisted Reproduction Technology

2/11/2013

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CHOOSING CHILDREN:  March 2013

Queer families who want to have children may adopt a child, or they may choose to have a child by birth.

This pamphlet describes the options if you want to conceive a child, and how the law applies.

A single person can have a child by birth, and if they do, the explanations in this pamphlet will apply.

A lesbian couple will need sperm.  A gay couple will need both eggs and a surrogate mother who will gestate and give birth to the child.  A couple in which one intended parent is transgender may or may not require sperm, eggs, or a surrogate.

All of these ways of conceiving a child are referred to as “assisted reproduction”.  If a child is conceived with assisted reproduction, who are the child’s legal parents?  Do queer parents have to get an adoption order, or an order declaring them to be a parent, to be sure that their legal connection to their child cannot be challenged?  Suppose a queer couple want to include an egg or sperm donor as one of the child’s parents?  Can you have more than two legal parents?

The Family Law Act

For the first time in B.C., the law answers all these questions.  After March 18, 2013,

  • Donors of sperm and eggs are NEVER  ‘parents’ of a child conceived with their genetic material, except if
  • Both parents in a lesbian, gay or trans-headed family are entitled to register as the child’s legal parents when the child is born, without the need for a “stepparent adoption” or a court order declaring them as parents
  • If a queer couple has agreed with a surrogate mother to carry their child, the couple (and not the surrogate) can registered as the child’s legal parents when their child is born
  • you do not have to have a genetic connection to a child in order to be registered as a legal parent of a child when the child is born
  • it is possible to register more than two people as a child’s legal parents when the child is born, provided that the intended parents have agreed in writing before the child is conceived
These are very big changes.  Before the Family Law Act, a birth parent, and a co-parent who was not genetically connected to a child, could be registered with the Vital Statistics Registry, and get a birth certificate showing both of them to be “parents” of their child.  But that didn’t make the non-genetic coparent a child’s legal parent.  For that to happen, a stepparent adoption or a court order declaring the non-genetic parent to be a child’s legal parent was required.  If a surrogate mother carried a child for a queer couple, both intended parents needed a court order, even if one of them had donated sperm or eggs to enable the conception of the child.

And it was not possible for a child to have more than two legal parents.

Why the Emphasis on “Legal” Parents?


There can be many ‘parents’ in a child’s life: the parents she had at birth, and the, if her parents broke up, partners they got together with could become stepparents.  Those partners acquired responsibilities as the child’s stepparent.  But they never become a legal parent of a child.

A child’s legal parent is the person under the law from whom a child would inherit.  Who your legal parents are determines who your relatives are, and determines such issues as who you can marry without being guilty of incest. 

We will examine the situation of lesbian co-parents, gay co-parents, and families with a transgender co-parent.

Remember that a single parent can also become a parent.

Lesbian Co-Parents


Sperm Donation Only

A lesbian couple who want to have a child together will need a sperm donation.  They can either buy sperm from a fertility clinic, or they can use sperm donated by someone they know.  If they buy sperm, they can register both lesbian moms on the child’s birth certificate when the child is born.  And that makes them the child’s legal parents, without any further steps being necessary.  No expensive adoption or declaration of parentage is required. 

The same is true if they use sperm from a known donor - with two important cautions. 

The co-moms must have been in a relationship when the child was conceived. 

And it matters how the child is conceived.  If a donor gives sperm to an intended mom, and she uses the “turkey baster method” to inseminate, both moms can register as their child’s legal parents at birth.  But if the bio-mom skips the turkey baster and has sex with the donor, then he and the bio=mom are deemed to be the child’s legal parents.  In that case the lesbian co-mom will need an adoption order or a declaration of parentage to confirm that she, and not the sperm donor who had sex with the birth mom, is the child’s second parent.

The law specifically says that a sperm donor does not get any rights or responsibilities as a legal parent just by donating sperm.  So no donor insemination agreement is necessary

Egg Donation /Surrogacy

Even if neither of the lesbian co-moms is able to conceive, or carry, a child, the two co-moms can be registered as the child’s legal parents at birth.  In that case, they will need in addition to sperm a donation of eggs and a surrogate mother.

What Does it Cost?

If they need a surrogate mother, and the child will be conceived with donated sperm and the eggs of the surrogate, they may work with a fertility agency, or the surrogate may be inseminated through the turkey baster method. 

It is illegal to pay for eggs, or sperm. It is also illegal to pay a surrogate a fee for carrying your child, though you can pay the surrogate’s expenses.  The law is unclear about what expenses are permitted to be reimbursed.  You will want to be clear with the surrogate mother what things will be paid for.  If your surrogate is a resident of B.C., she will be able to rely on B.C. Medicare to pay for the cost of delivering the child.

If you use the services of a fertility agency, there is of course a charge. 

Making sure you are the legal parents of a child born to a surrogate

If you are a lesbian couple who are planning to have a child with sperm from a donor, and eggs from a woman who will carry the child, what steps do you need to take to make sure you are the two legal parents of the child who is born?

As we said,  you don’t need a donor insemination agreement.

But you do need a written surrogacy agreement, signed between the lesbian co-moms and the surrogate before the child is conceived. And the surrogate will also have to sign a consent to surrender the child, when the child is born. 

Because the surrogacy agreement has to comply with the Family Law Act to enable you to rely on it to register as the child’s legal parents without needing a court order or an adoption, it is wise to get legal advice before drafting the agreement.

Once the child is born, if your paperwork is in order, you can register both of you as the child’s legal parents, with the Vital Statistics Agency.  At that point, you are your child’s only legal parents.  Neither the sperm donor, nor the surrogate /egg donor, has any parental rights.

What if you didn’t know about the need for a pre-conception surrogacy agreement, or your paper work does not comply with the requirements of the Family Law Act?  In that case, the Vital Statistics Agency will not register you as the parents of your child.  You will need to get a court order declaring you to be the parents of the child.  For that you will need the help of a lawyer.

Gay Dads

If you are a gay couple wanting to have children, you will need to have an egg donor, and a surrogate mother.  They may be the same person.

As outlined above, you can pay a surrogate mother for her expenses, but you cannot pay her a fee; and ou cannot pay for a donation of eggs.

You may use a fertility clinic to assist with the insemination.  If you are using an egg donor who is different from the surrogate mother, you will have to use the services of a fertility clinic, because they will have to do an extraction of the eggs.  An embryo will be created “in vitro” (outside the womb) and implanted in the surrogate mother.

If your egg donor and the surrogate mother are the same person, you need to have a surrogacy agreement, signed before the child is conceived; and when your baby is born your surrogate mother will have to sign a consent and give the baby to you.  See above for a description of the surrogacy agreement.

With that paperwork in hand, you and your partner can register as your child’s legal parents at the birth of your child.  You are then the child’s only legal parents, for all purposes of the law.

If for some reason your paperwork is not in order, you will need to make an application for a “declaration of parentage”. You will need legal help to do that.

Transgender Families

A couple may include one or two transgender individuals.  A trans person is someone whose sense of their own gender is not congruent with the other gender indicators such as their primary or secondary sex characteristics, or their chromosomal or hormonal makeup. 

For trans people whose situation is acute, medical treatment involves sex reassignment surgery (SRS) and hormone treatments.  An individual changes their body so that it is congruent with their own sense of their gender.

A male to female trans person who has SRS will have her testes removed, and her penis inverted to create a vagina; and she will have breast augmentation.  She will take feminizing hormones. 

A female to male trans person will have chest contouring, along with masculinizing hormones.   He may hsave a hysterectomy and a surgically-constructed penis.

So how does a trans person prepare for parentage?  First, he or she can plan ahead, by freezing sperm or eggs to be used to conceive a child, down the road.  In that case, the trans person is using their own genetic material, for their own parental project, so they are, under the law, one of the child’s legal parents.

In some cases, a transman may be able to give birth to a child.  If he has not had a hysterectomy, he may conceive and/or carry a child.  He will discontinue masculinizing hormones to do so.  In that situation the transman will be registered as the child’s “birth mother’ because the law defines “birth mother” as the person from whose body a child was delivered.  But the child’s birth certificate will show him as “parent”.

Multiple Parents

A big change in the law in B.C. is that a child can now have more than two legal parents.  Provided that all of the prospective parents agree in writing, before a child is conceived, a donor of sperm or eggs, a surrogate mother, and perhaps the partners of those individuals, may also be registered as a legal parent of the child.  Then the child’s birth certificate will show whichever of those people has a agreed to be a co-parent as a legal parent on the child’s birth certificate.

Because it is important that the agreements satisfy the requirements of the Family Law Act in order that all the child’s prospective parents can be registered on the child’ birth certificate without the need for a court order, it is wise to get legal advice before creating the agreement among the parents. 

B irth Certificates

All of a child’s parents are listed on his birth certificate, and all of them have the word ‘parent’, regardless of how many parents a child has.  The words ‘mother’ or ‘father’ do not appear any longer on birth certificates in British Columbia.


*This pamphlet is effective March 13, 2013.  It is available for downloading on the Out/Law page of this website, and may be used without charge provided that barbara findlay is credited as the author, no changes to the text are made, and no fee is charged for the material.


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